how to stop caring what people think

I've been a people-pleaser most of my life. I'm not the type to go a tremendous distance out of my way to make someone happy but rather the type who will obsess over any real or perceived disapproval, dislike, annoyance, anger, sadness directed towards me or as a result of something I did. By obsess… Continue reading how to stop caring what people think

going with the flow

I'm learning to go with the flow, the flow of my energy, that is. I used to set the same productivity (and social too) expectations without taking into account the natural flow of my physical and mental energy. And then I would fail. I would fail because I would often set my expectations in times… Continue reading going with the flow

i have adhd

Hi, my name is Alissa and I have ADHD. Before I get too far in, I want to clarify who this post is for and who it is not for. This post is for anyone out there who might be able to relate, who might be on or about to start the journey to understanding… Continue reading i have adhd

sad

I'm not sure I'm feeling a little sadness or am experiencing the first signs of a depressive wonky period of life (mostly my wonky brain is anxious or disorganized). I've had two major depression episodes in my life, one in high school and one in college, each starting about 4 years apart. I'm a year… Continue reading sad

relationships & wonky brains

[You know I didn't proofread this. I know it's a reflection on me and that sucks but proofreading is boring and I'm not a professional blogger and you more or less can still get the point even with a typo or ten. When I read this again in thee days I'll be horrified at all… Continue reading relationships & wonky brains

packing, shame, and sweet husbands

My husband kicked me out of the house this evening because I had a wonky brain breakdown over all the packing we have left to do for our move tomorrow. It wasn't an angry kicking out. It was a loving one. He did it for me. (Part of me wants to wait until the thoughts… Continue reading packing, shame, and sweet husbands

on silence

I'm feeling more in touch with myself than I have for a while. I owe that to taking the last few days to "de-noise" my life. I was feeling overstimulated by work (preschoolers are beautiful little universes but they aren't exactly known for being tranquil or low maintenance) and by a host of thoughts needing… Continue reading on silence

The Mental Immune System | Part Two

A few weeks ago we started talking about the mental immune system. In part one, we got the boring elements out of the way (eating health food, exercising regularly, and sleeping enough). Today, I want to focus on: connection. I have found genuine connection to be vital for my mental health because it is grounding.… Continue reading The Mental Immune System | Part Two